Question KAren, I would like to ask your advice on an area of my life where I am experiencing a blockage at the moment - I am on a quest to become fitter and healthier and ultimately to lose some weight, and while I am happy with the health benefits I am experiencing I am having a problem with losing weight. Physically I have been working out almost every day for the last six weeks, and I am being mindful of what I am eating, still I have lost a minimal amount of weight. I also stopped drinking alcohol in an effort to speed up my weight loss, but this hasn't worked either. Another side effect of my giving up alcohol is that I have been living a bit of a hermit life over the past few weeks (a lot of my friends are Irish and love being in pubs and drinking!) and as I am trying to avoid alcohol I have been avoiding going to pubs etc. The reason that I want to lose weight is because I have gained a bit over the last year and I don't feel as attractive as I used to, and I think that it's holding me back from enjoying myself as much as I probably would if I was a bit slimmer. I genuinely felt a lot better when I was slimmer, more confident and relaxed about the way I look, and I want this feeling back. I have a good idea what is blocking me, I feel like I am focusing on the fact that I am not losing weight (and focusing way to much on it, I am thinking about it all the time and it's driving me crazy!). And I want to be able to control these negative feelings as I know they are holding me back. It's almost like my body doesn't want me to lose weight, and I'm quite frustrated because I am working so hard in the gym and eating sensibly and not drinking. Also I know that six weeks is not a long period of time, but I feel like there is definitely a blockage there and I really want to release it and start enjoying myself. I feel like another reason that I am experiencing this blockage is that I had my heart broken a few months ago by my ex boyfriend and deep down I feel like he wasn't attracted to me anymore because I started to gain weight - I don't know if I really believe this however the thought is still there. I am still a bit sore over the breakup so perhaps this is blocking me too. You are correct with what you think is blocking you. Your focus is creating what you want and what you do not want. In a vibrational Universe NO means Yes. Meaning, you cannot focus on something and not have it show up in your personal reality.
You can only change your focus.
We feel you are spending far to much time thinking about what you do not want and not what you do want. And placing too much importance on your weight being the reason why you are not getting what you want.
Clearly You want to feel good. And you have been remembering a time when you did feel good or better, a time when you were thinner. But your weight was not the reason behind your happiness. Your happiness was a result of what you were focusing on or thinking about at that time. It is good to focus on happier times, a great reminder of how you can be happy again, also as you focus there you are offering a vibration, or emotion, that is bringing more happy times to you. All your power is in the now, whether you are thinking about a happy future or past it is important to focus in a way now that feels good to you.
" I feel free to be do and have anything I want, I am enjoying the adventure of life and excited about what more life has to offer. This time is a time of exploration about what I am capable of and what I CAN achieve. I know I am an intelligent woman with a loving heart and sensitive to the needs of others. I love contributing to others this always feels good to me, I love knowing I have helped people in some way. I know I am an uplifter and people love being around me. My true contribution to anyone is my own connection to my joy or source energy, as everyone is looking to connect to that, and I am a brilliant example of this when I am accepting myself for exactly who I am in this moment. I love every aspect of me, I think of myself in a positive way. I do not have to change one bit of myself to please others, (NOT ONE BIT), I am a joy to be around and to know. My weight will rebalance as I continue to balance my own energy by thinking about myself in a positive way, because this aligns with how my innerbeing feels about me. And when I beat up on myself for being overweight, or not able to loose weight, I am resisting the flow of positive energy that is bringing to me what I want.
When I am happy and loving myself more I will find it easier to have everything that I am asking for. I have done this before and I can do it again. I have seen how easy and effortless it can be for life to bring to me what I want when I am happy and in a good mood. Life always bring a vibrational match to my emotional state of mind.
( As I am writing this to you Lorna I have two kookaburras laughing so loudly on my deck. They agree with everything I am writing to you about.)
My weight as nothing to do with the way I feel about myself, but I do have desire to be thinner and I know I will get what I want and my efforts to loose weight will work, but I must FIRST take care of my emotional journey for any action I take to work.
Starving myself of what I like to do, the people I like to be with and what I like to eat and drink does not feel good to me, and when I do not feel good this is my emotional guidance system reminding me that I am not moving in the right direction to receive my desire to be thinner. So I am going to think about myself in a more positive way, I know I CAN do anything and I know I CAN get what I want. I am not in control of the metabolism of the food I eat and how my cells work, but some other part of me is and this part is governed by the way I feel. It is always lining up with my focus and how I feel. So Now I am determined to focus in a better way about myself, my life, my work my future and feel the thrill of knowing I CAN have anything I want."
Lorna you are a brilliant creator, a wonderful person and a joy to be around. ( And VERY beautiful just the way you are).You have a Universe of opportunity waiting out there for you to let in. Lovers, adventures, money and JOYS beyond the normal mans imagination. YOUR work is to feel good about yourself to let it all in.
People are attracted to you because of the vibration you are offering. Attraction never has anything to do with what people look like. The most attractive people in the world are the ones who love themselves, and you want to love yourself because Law of attraction will bring to you the person that lines up with how you feel about yourself. And if you are busy beating up on yourself for the way you look you will attract someone who beats up on them self and looks to you for their reassurance, and that is no fun.
You want someone who feels good about who they are and what they have to offer the world, a happy confident loving person who is excited about the future and what is possible for them. Someone who knows how powerful they are in creating anything they want and looks forward to enjoying the manifestations of their creations.
And you will have this. You are a person who has asked to know and experience their power and to uplift and remind others and you have moved quickly up the emotional scale in regards to this. So it is natural that some of the people around you will change as you continue to ask and receive more guidance on this. They may not be asking the same questions or desiring the same as you.
You only have to change your opinion about yourself a little bit to change your point of attraction and receive better results.
The action journey ( ie: diet, exercise, abstinence etc, ) has little to do with the results you are getting. It is always and will forever be about your emotional Journey.
Exercise because it feels good to exercise and for no other reason. Eat what feels good and healthy to eat. You are not on this planet to loose weight you are here to have a good time, see and experience the creative power within you, feel your passion and spread your joy. You are creating with your mind and enjoying your creations with your body. The Universe is bringing you everything you want, but your job is to let it in by remembering who you really are and loving every part of yourself. Especially your emotional guidance system that is showing you the way to having it all. ( Stop beating up on yourself for feeling bad, instead thank your guidance for showing you that you are thinking in a way that is moving you away from what you want, and make a U turn so you can move towards your goal again.)
You are a powerful contribution to this planet, your smile lights up the world and your joy heals the hearts of men and women. Let yourself breath this in and remember who you really are.
Have fun Lorna, we look forward to speaking with you again. LOVE IS YOU... your Greater self the Universe...
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